
Melody Beattie was an American self-help author best known for her groundbreaking work on codependency. Born in 1948 in Minnesota, she endured a traumatic childhood marked by abuse and early substance addiction. After achieving sobriety, she became a licensed addiction counselor and began writing to help others navigate emotional recovery. Her 1986 book Codependent No More became a bestseller, selling eight million copies and helping to bring the concept of codependency into mainstream awareness. Over her career, she authored 18 books, including Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, and Make Miracles in Forty Days. Though her work is often associated with Co-Dependents Anonymous, her books were independent of the program. Beattie’s personal life reflected many of the struggles she addressed in her work, including four marriages and the loss of a son. Her writing often drew from her own experiences with grief, addiction, and healing. In early 2025, she was forced to evacuate her Malibu home due to wildfires and died shortly after at her daughter’s home in Los Angeles from heart failure.
by Melody Beattie
Rating: 4.1 ⭐
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The #1 bestseller that has helped heal millions of readers, this modern classic holds the key to understanding codependency and unlocking its hold on your life. Melody Beattie’s compassionate and insightful look into codependency—the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another— has helped millions of readers understand that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins. Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to a loved one’s self-destructive behavior, you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More helps you to break old patterns, maintain healthy boundaries, and say no to unhealthy relationships. It offers a clear and achievable path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness. This ground-breaking book is even more relevant today, as readers confront new, urgent challenges with greater self-awareness, than it was when it first entered the national conversation over 35 years ago.
Written for those of us who struggle with codependency, these daily meditations offer growth and renewal, and remind us that the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own self-care.Melody Beattie integrates her own life experiences and fundamental recovery reflections in this unique daily meditation book written especially for those of us who struggle with the issue of codependency. Problems are made to be solved, Melody reminds us, and the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own pain and self-care. In this daily inspirational book, Melody provides us with a thought to guide us through the day and she encourages us to remember that each day is an opportunity for growth and renewal.
In simple, straightforward terms, Beattie takes you into the territory beyond codependency, into the realm of recovery and relapse, family-of-origin work and relationships, surrender and spirituality.You're learning to let go, to live your life free of the grip of someone else's problems. And yet you find you've just started on the long journey of recovery. Let Melody Beattie, author of the classic Codependent No More, help you along your way. A guided tour past the pitfalls of recovery, Beyond Codependency is dedicated to those struggling to master the art of self-care. It is a book about what to do once the pain has stopped and you've begun to suspect that you have a life to live. It is about what happens next.In simple, straightforward terms, Beattie takes you into the territory beyond codependency, into the realm of recovery and relapse, family-of-origin work and relationships, surrender and spirituality. With personal stories, hard-won insights, and activities, her book teaches the lessons of dealing with shame, growing in self-esteem, overcoming deprivation, and getting past fatal attractions long enough to find relationships that work.
by Melody Beattie
Rating: 4.5 ⭐
Beattie, author of Codependent No More, Beyond Codependency, and Lessons of Love, writes with the same warmth, honesty, and compassion in this collection, helping readers chart a new path toward spiritual growth and renewal. Journey to the Heart will comfort and inspire us all as we begin to discover our true purpose in the world and learn to connect even more deeply with ourselves, the creative force, and the magic and mystery in the world around and within us.
A follow-up to the best-selling Codependent No More evaluates how co-dependence has changed in recent years while making recommendations for how readers can make healthier behavioral choices in order to reclaim their lives. 100,000 first printing.
Much of the attention in our self-help-absorbed world is focused on the addict--the compulsive, chemically dependent person who uses alcohol or other drugs to anesthetize the pain of day-to-day living. But what about the other victims of addiction--the spouses, families, and caretakers suffering (not so quietly) in the background, so involved in the addict's problems that they are unable to identify and solve their own?Codependent No More and Beyond Codependency address these issues in a clear language, providing colorful examples and steps to assist readers in ameliorating their relationship patterns and developing healthy lifestyles. These classic bestsellers inspired a personal growth movement upon their release and kindled the creation of Co-Dependents Anonymous. People struggling with codependency can continue to improve their lives and become codependent no more.
The New York Times bestselling self-help book that offers advice on how to find and choose the recovery program for you, as well as a directory of the wide range of Twelve Step programs, including AA, Codependents Anonymous, Codependents of Sex Addicts, Adult Children of Alcoholics, and more.Millions identified with Melody Beattie in Codependent No More and gained inspiration from her in Beyond Codependency. Now she’s back to help you discover how recovery programs work and to help you find the right one for you. Interpreting the famous Alcoholics Anonymous Twelve Steps specifically for codependent issues for the very first time, this groundbreaking book combines Melody’s expertise with the experience of other people to:• Explain each step and how you can apply it to your particular issues• Offer specific exercises and activities to use both in group settings and on your own• Provide a directory of the wide range of Twelve Step programs—including Al-Anon, Codependents Anonymous, Codependents of Sex Addicts, Adult Children of Alcoholics, and moreThe uniquely warm and compassionate voice of Melody Beattie will inspire you to turn your life around—one step at a time.
This highly anticipated workbook will help readers put the principles from Melody Beattie's international best seller Codependent No More into action in their own lives.The Codependent No More Workbook was designed for Melody Beattie fans spanning the generations, as well as for those who may not yet even understand the meaning and impact of their codependency. In this accessible and engaging workbook, Beattie uses her trademark down-to-earth style to offer readers a Twelve Step, interactive program to stop obsessing about others by developing the insight, strength, and resilience to start taking care of themselves. Through hands-on guided journaling, exercises, and self-tests, readers will learn to integrate the time-tested concepts outlined in Codependent No More into their daily lives by setting and enforcing healthy limits; developing a support system through healthy relationships with others and a higher power; experiencing genuine love and forgiveness; and letting go and detaching from others' harmful behaviors. Whether fixated on a loved one with depression, an addiction, an eating disorder, or other self-destructive behaviors, or someone who makes unhealthy decisions, this book offers the practical means to plot a comprehensive, personalized path to hope, healing, and the freedom to be your own best self.
Daily thoughts provide readers with ongoing insights into issues such as surrendering, the damaging effects of manipulation, and healthy communication.This new volume of meditations offers clients ongoing wisdom and guidance about relationship issues. An excellent enhancement to therapy, daily thoughts provide clients with ongoing insights into issues such as surrendering, the damaging effects of manipulation, and healthy communication. More Language of Letting Go shares unsentimental, direct help for clients recovering from chemical dependency, healing from relationships and family issues, and exploring personal growth.
If you could ask for a miracle right now, what would it be? We've all had situations in our lives that seem beyond our control or that have no clear remedy. In this concise, inspirational guide, bestselling self-help guru Melody Beattie shows us that we have the ability to make a miracle for almost any circumstance we're facing. Beattie, a trusted counselor for millions of readers, has shared her own stirring stories of overcoming obstacles and dealing with life's tragedies for more than twenty-five years. In "Make Miracles in Forty Days "she now offers the ultimate distillation of what she knows about gratitude, surrender, and connecting with our essential power. She challenges us to be more present each day and details a six-week action plan, the Miracle Exercise, to jump-start transformation in our lives. After completing a series of activities, we'll establish what miracles we'd like to create, and then she'll walk us through practicing this innovative exercise alone, with a partner, and even with our children. Beattie instructs us to be thankful for everything in our lives and for how we're really feeling; we need to express gratitude for what we have and who we are, not just for our obvious blessings. It is crucial that we are grateful for recognizing what is upsetting and bothering us. Through acknowledging the pain that we're feeling, we can excise any denial or resistance that is holding us back. As we progress over the forty days, instead of feeling lost, numb, or confused, we'll become more conscious, aware, and alive. Our miracle will begin to materialize.Along the way, Beattie reveals her own experiences of making miracles, individually and through working with a partner, and those of the participants in her Miracle Workshop. She shares moving stories of overcoming hardship and finding acceptance and forgiveness, and inspires us to move forward with a renewed vigor for life.
“Melody Beattie gives you the tools to discover the magnificence and splendor of your being.” — Deepak Chopra, author of Jesus and Buddha “Beattie understands being overboard, which helps her throw bestselling lifelines to those still adrift.” — Time magazine From the New York Times bestselling author of Codependent No More, The Language of Letting Go, Journey to the Heart, Choices , and Stop Being Mean to Yourself , comes Finding Your Way Home : a soul-searching book, with true stories and take-action exercises, designed to help foster a sense of “home” and personal spirituality.
From the New York Times bestselling author of Codependent No More, The Language of Letting Go, Finding Your Way Home, Journey to the Heart, and Stop Being Mean to Yourself, comes Choices: powerful wisdom and insight about how to make the best choices in our lives from the author who revolutionized how we look at relationships.Contents:Section I: The Great Law1. She wanted a baby2. A sad week in Coventry3. A moment of truth4. The drive wasn't what he expected5. Karma with feet6. She had to explain7. First class8. He hit the wallSection II: Living in the Mystery1. She found the key2. An angel whispered to him3. She couldn't decide4. He saw the light5. She stopped running5. She saw a monster in her bedroom7. She liked itSection III: As the Wheel Turns1. Nigh shift2. He felt spun3. Her room was a mess4. She found herself in nowhere5. He had to backtrack6. she missed a step, too7. She laughed away the gray8. He was sick of being sick9. She rode the wheelSection IV: Bringing Heaven to Earth1. She made a hard call2. He found peace in a war zone3. And goodwill toward men4. He got what he paid for5. She got a tipSection V: Opposites Attract1. She found the right words2. Horse sense3. She turned the tables4. He know how he felt5. Let the winds blow6. She got swept off her feet7. Her fantasy became real8. He went to extremesSection VI: Go for the Gold1. She called the law2. She blamed herself3. He got even4. Mommy dearest5. Her halo fell off6. He wanted to make amendsSection VII: Staying on Track1. They dug deeper2. A curious table3. She made a good callSection VIII: Going Toward the Light1. He ran out of hope2. She couldn't sit still3. He saw the future4. She learned nonattachment5. He found the rainbow and the pot of gold
The Grief Club is Melody Beattie's profoundly personal, powerfully healing book to help readers through life's most difficult times.Part memoir, part self-help book, part journalism, The Grief Club is a book of stories bound together by the human experience of loss in its many forms such as death, divorce, drug addiction, and the tumultuous yet tender process of recovery. It's a book you need to read and share.Twenty years ago, Codependent No More established Melody Beattie as a pioneering voice in self-help literature and endeared her to readers who longed for healthier relationships. Over the years, Melody has invited readers into her life with several more best-selling books--each punctuated with her trademark candor and intuitive wisdom.
by Melody Beattie
Rating: 3.3 ⭐
Stop Being Mean to Yourself is a compassionate guide filled with new ideas for overcoming the pitfalls of guilt and self-doubt, and helps readers find a happier place in the world."In this wonderfully practical book, Melody Beattie gives you the tools to discover the magnificence and splendor of your being." -- Deepak Chopra, M.D.Beckoning readers toward a spiritual territory beyond even that of her revolutionary best-seller Codependent No More, Melody Beattie conducts us through teeming Casablanca, war-torn Algeria, and the caverns of Egypt's great pyramids as she embarks on a new kind of journey of the soul.An enlightening blend of travel adventure and spiritual discovery, filled with new ideas for overcoming the pitfalls of guilt and self-doubt, Stop Being Mean to Yourself is a compassionate tour guide for the troubled and the heartsick, for those who seek a happier place in the world. A tale that is at once modern and timeless, rich with the promise of personal discovery, it is a book about learning the art of living and of loving others -- and ourselves. As full of suspense and excitement as it is of hope and encouragement, it is as rewarding for its pure reading pleasure as for the wisdom it imparts.
by Melody Beattie
Rating: 4.0 ⭐
The timeless, magical story of one woman's return to life and love when she thought she had lost it all.
"Beattie understands being overboard, which helps her throw best-selling lifelines to those still adrift."----TIME Since the publication of Melody Beattie's groundbreaking book, Codependent No More, millions of people have confronted the demons of codependency. And yet, many in recovery find themselves slipping back into the old ways that brought them such grief. In her newest book, Beattie helps readers understand what drives them back into the grasp of controlling behavior and victimhood--and what it takes to pull themselves out, to return to the healing, faith, and maturity that comes with a commitment to recovery. Personal essays, inspiring anecdotes, and prescriptive reminders show readers how to stop acting out their painful obsessions. Marked by compassion and keen insight, Playing It by Heart explores the author's most intense personal lessons and shows readers that, despite setbacks, recovery is a lifelong opportunity for spiritual growth. In her many best-selling books, including Stop Being Mean to Yourself, Codependent No More, and The Language of Letting Go, Melody Beattie draws on the wisdom of Twelve Step healing, Christianity, and Eastern religions.
by Melody Beattie
Rating: 4.4 ⭐
Organized as weekly collections of stories, meditations, and suggestions, 52 Weeks of Conscious Contact addresses key self-care issues.Organized as weekly collections of stories, meditations, and suggestions, 52 Weeks of Conscious Contact addresses key self-care issues.What gets in the way of serenity? For most people, the answer is life--those everyday distractions, obligations, and frustrations that cause chaos and clutter. In her new week-by-week guidebook, best-selling self-help author Melody Beattie brings new hope to individuals longing to lead a more serene life. Organized as weekly collections of stories, meditations, and suggestions, 52 Weeks of Conscious Contact addresses key self-care issues, including how to nurture inner peace, when to reach out to others, how to carry through on good intentions, where to make time for fun, and how to cultivate a deeper prayer life. Beattie's thoughtful prose and practical advice provide new opportunities for reflection, affirmation, and change.
One simple concept can get us through the most stressful times in life: Gratitude. In these inspiring passages originally introduced in Codependent No More, Beyond Codependency, and The Language of Letting Go, author Melody Beattie explores how gratitude can work miracles in our lives, transforming negative, self-defeating thoughts into recognition of the gifts life has to offer.In sections devoted to affirming gratitude, nurturing yourself, learning acceptance, and setting your goals, Beattie teaches you to say thanks for the way things are and to recognize the lessons in every experience.
by Melody Beattie
Rating: 4.3 ⭐
Four titles by best-selling author Melody Beattie.Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself: Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book--Codependent No More. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency--charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness. Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time: You're learning to let go, to live your life free of the grip of someone else's problems. And yet you find you've just started on the long journey of recovery. Let Melody Beattie help you along your way. A guided tour past the pitfalls of recovery, Beyond Codependency is dedicated to those struggling to master the art of self-care. It is a book about what to do once the pain has stopped and you've begun to suspect that you have a life to live. It is about what happens next. Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency: Melody Beattie integrates her own life experiences and fundamental recovery reflections in this unique daily meditation book written especially for those of us who struggle with the issue of codependency. Problems are made to be solved, Melody reminds us, and the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own pain and self-care. In this daily inspirational book, Melody provides us with a thought to guide us through the day and she encourages us to remember that each day is an opportunity for growth and renewal. More Language of Letting Go: 366 New Daily Meditations: This new volume of meditations offers clients ongoing wisdom and guidance about relationship issues. An excellent enhancement to therapy, daily thoughts provide clients with ongoing insights into issues such as surrendering, the damaging effects of manipulation, and healthy communication. More Language of Letting Go shares unsentimental, direct help for clients recovering from chemical dependency, healing from relationships and family issues, and exploring personal growth.
by Melody Beattie
Rating: 5.0 ⭐
This journal, a companion to the popular meditation book of the same name, offers exercises for daily reflection, affirmation, and change in helping people let go of self-destructive thoughts.Fear, shame, anger, self-doubt. Helping people "let go" of self-destructive thoughts, emotions, and behaviors has been the life work of acclaimed author Melody Beattie. For more than a decade, millions of readers have turned to Beattie's classic meditation book, The Language of Letting Go, as a wellspring for daily reflection, affirmation, and change. Now the journal edition, using abridged text from the original best-seller, allows readers to record their thoughts, fears, and accomplishments.Key features and Beattie's work is known and trusted among self-help readers.Journal format invites readers to personalize meditations.Meditation themes explore common relationship issues.A thoughtful gift for friends or a great gift for yourself.
Veel delen hun leven met iemand die in de problemen is geraakt door criminaliteit, seks, alcohol, drugs, gokken, eten, werk of psychische oorzaken. In die situatie vraagt de ander heel veel aandacht en moet je jezelf wegcijferen. Het gevolg is dat je óók afhankelijk wordt en daardoor zelf in de problemen raakt. Om de weg naar jezelf terug te vinden heeft Melody Beattie een baanbrekend, inspirerend en hoopgevend boek geschreven. Leef je eigen leven laat zien hoe deze situaties ontstaan, waarom mensen dan een afhankelijk gedrag gaan vertonen en hoe dat je leven gaat bepalen. Melody Beattie geeft stap voor stap aan hoe je je zelfvertrouwen kunt herstellen om van daaruit weer richting aan je eigen leven te geven.
Relationships require tending, and who better to turn to for hope and inspiration than Melody Beattie? The author's thoughtful essays and meditations point the way to healing and hope by inviting opportunities for reflection, affirmation, and change. A special box set of Beattie's best-selling daily meditation books is now available.
For all of us recovering from codependency, especially those working the Twelve Steps, TALK, TRUST, AND FEEL offers reinforcement and inspiring perspectives from 10 of Hazelden's leading voices. Ttheir wise observations help us let go of our desire to change the other person and take responsibility for ourselves as continue our journey toward wholeness.
by Melody Beattie
Rating: 4.6 ⭐
The Language of Letting Go, Codependent No More, Beyond Codependency, 10% Happier 4 Books Collection Set. The Language of Letting Daily Meditations on Codependency Melody Beattie integrates her own life experiences and fundamental recovery reflections in this unique daily meditation book written especially for those of us who struggle with the issue of codependency. Problems are made to be solved, Melody reminds us, and the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own pain and self-care. Codependent No How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself In the June 29th issue of Newsweek magazine Dr. Drew Pinsky named Melody Beattie's Codependent No More one of the four essential self-help books available today, calling it the ""grandaddy of addiction tomes.""Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent. Beyond And Getting Better All the Time You're learning to let go, to live your life free of the grip of someone else's problems. And yet you find you've just started on the long journey of recovery. Let Melody Beattie, author of the classic Codependent No More, help you along your way. A guided tour past the pitfalls of recovery, Beyond Codependency is dedicated to those struggling to master the art of self-care. 10% How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works After having a nationally televised panic attack, Harris knew he had to make some changes. A lifelong non-believer, he found himself on a bizarre adventure and realised that the sources of his problems was the very thing he always thought was his greatest the incessant, insatiable voice in his head, which had propelled him through the ranks of a hyper-competitive business
Die Freunde und Angehörigen von Alkoholikern, Drogenabhängigen und anderen Süchtigen haben es oft schwerer als die Betroffenen selbst. Sie werden von den Problemen ihrer Partner erdrückt und fühlen sich meist nicht in der Lage, mit der veränderten Situation umzugehen.
Describes how to focus on things for which one should be grateful and offers meditations for those recovering from codependency
"Nem könnyű boldogságra találnunk önmagunkban, csakhogy sehol másutt nem lelhetünk rá."Mi is pontosan a társfüggőség, és ki a társfüggő? Társfüggő az a személy, aki engedi, hogy hasson rá egy másik ember viselkedése, s aki rögeszmésen uralni kívánja ezt a valakit. A saját közérzetét a társáétól teszi függővé. Olyan ember, aki következetesen és minden erejével azon van, hogy kikényszerítse a történéseket - a szeretet nevében. A taktikák különböznek, a cél azonban egy és ugyanaz: rábírni másokat, hogy azt tegyék, amit mi akarunk, és úgy viselkedjenek, ahogyan mi elképzeljük. Társfüggő az is, aki olyan súlyosan beteg, zavart, ellátásra szoruló vagy szenvedélybeteg emberrel él elkötelezett kapcsolatban, akinek a viselkedése/állapota befolyásolja az életét, ugyanakkor megszállottan irányítani akarja ennek a személynek a viselkedését.A társfüggőség betegség, amit gyógyítani kell, ugyanis akkor sem múlik el magától, ha a kiváltó oka megszűnik. A társfüggőség megrögzött gondolkodási, érzelmi és viselkedési rendszer, amely önmagunkban alakul ki azzal kapcsolatban, aki fájdalmat okoz - önpusztító dolog!Meg kell érteni: mindenki csak saját magáért felelős. Az emberek, úgy éreznek, ahogyan érezni akarnak; azt gondolják, amit gondolnak; azt teszik, amit hitük szerint tenniük kell; s csupán akkor változnak meg, ha belül készen állnak a változásra. Az egyetlen ember, aki valaha is megváltoztathatunk - saját magunk. Az egyetlen ember, akit jogunk van irányítani - mi magunk vagyunk.A Ne függj senkitől! című kötet tanulságos esettörténeteivel, személyes kommentárjaival, gyakorlataival és tesztjeivel érthetően, nyíltan tárgyalja ezt a zavarba ejtő témát. A 12 lépéses módszer segítségével, melyet a szerző feltár a könyvben, szabadság, egészség és boldogság várhat az egykor társfüggő emberekre.
To ksiazka dla tych wszystkich, którzy nie moga pogodzic sie z uzaleznieniem swoich bliskich i cierpia z tego powodu. W pierwszej ksiazce Melody Beattie, Koniec wspóluzaleznienia, wiele takich osób odnalazlo wlasne problemy i wskazówki, jak je rozwiazac. Teraz, po latach, moga sie przekonac, w jakim miejscu sie znajduja i czy wspóluzaleznienie nadal jest ich zmora. Przede wszystkim jednak jest to ksiazka ,,dla nowego pokolenia" - tych, którzy w momencie publikacji Konca wspóluzaleznienia byli jeszcze dziecmi.