Emotional Intelligence: How They Determine Our Success - Increase Your EQ by Mastering Your Emotions
About this book
Everyone is confronted by our own emotions in addition to those of other people. The manner in which we manage these emotions will determine how other people perceive us and our effectiveness in getting things done. By increasing our emotional intelligence, we will be better equipped to respond to situations around us with a high degree of maturity. Studies by renowned researchers such as John Mayer, Peter Salovey and Konstantin Vasily Petrides have shown that people who have a high emotional intelligence become better leaders and are exemplary in whatever they do. In his doctoral thesis entitled - A study of Developing Emotional Intelligence, Wayne Payne became the first person to use the term emotional intelligence. Compared to intelligence quotient (IQ), emotional intelligence appears to be superior because it covers a wide range of faculties and aspects of people’s behavior. Studying emotional intelligence will help you understand the source and impact of your emotions. This is important because it enhances self awareness. You will also have an opportunity to understand the behavior of other people and the underlying reasons why they act the way they do. Conflict management borrows heavily from emotional intelligence. By understanding the emotional needs of other people, you will be better placed to handle conflicts and resolve them in a manner that benefits every party. When conflicts are resolved amicably, they give you an opportunity to establish even stronger relationships and social bonds. A mastery of interpersonal skills such as listening, verbal communication, non-verbal communication, self management and assertiveness will make you gain trust and respect from others thereby becoming an influential person in social circles. Emotional intelligence is an interesting subject because it teaches and trains us to better relate with other people. With the pace at whichthe world is fast becoming a global village, it is essential that you learn how to listen and interpret information coming to you from others. This will in turn help you in structuring your response. While many people confuse emotional intelligence and intelligence quotient, this book makes it clear that intelligence quotient is a subset of emotional intelligence. When you learn how to command your emotions, you will exercise more control over your life and unlock opportunities that would have otherwise remained hidden. Emotional maturity is something that every one of us is working towards attaining. This means that you should not be discouraged and sidetracked but rather press on and aggressively pursue your emotional goals to their final end.