
I have been a psychologist in private practice for over thirty years. I began writing online in 2012, and I’m excited to announce that my book, entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism that Masks Your Depression, was published in English in 2019, and since has been translated into German, Turkish, Polish, Dutch, Korean, and Czech. You can learn more about perfectly hidden depression and other topics by searching for articles on my website and by listening to my podcast called SelfWork, which you can find here or on your favorite podcasting platform. I’ve been researching and writing on perfectly hidden depression for ten years, and I’m passionate about the message that although depression can be heavily masked by perfectionism, its damage can still be devastating to that someone who’s trying so hard to smile their way through growing loneliness and despair. I recently became a TedX Speaker at TedXBocaRotan and would love to speak to your organization.
When Dr. Margaret sat down to write about her almost 24-year-old marriage, what emerged were the same number of feisty and honest thoughts about what marriage is, and what it definitely is not. Now accompanied by evocative images from around the world by photographers Deborah Strauss and Christine Mathias, her words bring a knowing smile, a nod of the head, and a recognition of hard-earned truth.
by Margaret Robinson Rutherford
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If you were raised to believe that painful emotions are a sign of weakness, or if being vulnerable has always made you feel unsafe, then you may have survived by creating a perfect-looking life—a life where you appear to be successful, engaged, and always there for others. The problem? You’re filled with self-criticism and shame, and you can’t allow yourself to express fear, anger, loss, or grief.
by Margaret Robinson Rutherford
When your life seems perfect to others, but you’re slowly and silently falling apart—this workbook will help you recognize and challenge the ten traits of destructive perfectionism that mask and drive your hidden depression. If you were raised to believe that expressing struggle is a sign of weakness, or if being emotionally transparent has always made you feel unsafe, then you may have pro