Janet Geringer Woititz

In the 1980's, Janet Woititz broke new ground in our understanding of what it is to be an Adult Child of an Alcoholic. In this updated edition of her bestseller she re-examines the movement and its inclusion of Adult Children from various dysfunctional family backgrounds who share the same characteristics. After decades of working with ACoAs she shares the recovery hints that she has found to work. Read Adult Children of Alcoholics to see where the journey began and for ideas on where to go from here.

Janet Woititz, mother of the recovery movement, sensitively addresses the barriers of trust and intimacy that children learn in an alcoholic family. She provides suggestions for building loving relationships with friends, partners, and spouses.

From the author of the New York Times bestseller Adult Children of Alcoholics, this book affirms and encourages ACoAs by developing skills for living.Imagine how good you would feel if: • You could stand up for yourself without losing your temper • You could make a decision without second guessing yourself • You didn't have that sense of worthlessness every time someone criticized you • You could learn how to say "no" and stick with itIn Lifeskills for Adult Children, you can learn how to do these things and more. This book is designed specifically for Adult Children and teaches skills to make your complex adult life easier, while improving your sense of self-worth. Examples are provided to help clarify the lessons and exercises are given to help you practice your new skills.Lifeskills for Adult Children is for those who have difficulty: • Asking for what you want • Solving problems • Handling criticism • Saying "no"

When they were first released in the 1980s, Janet Woititz's groundbreaking works, Adult Children of Alcoholics, Struggle for Intimacy and The Self-Sabotage Syndrome, provided a new message of hope to adult children who had grown up in the shadow of alcoholic parents. Their message today is as profound and timeless as it was two decades ago.Now, in this complete collection, readers will learn again the insight and healing power of Janet Wotitiz's words. The Complete ACoA Sourcebook is a compilation of three of Dr. Woititz's classic books, addressing head-on the symptoms of The Adult Children of Alcoholics syndrome and providing strategies for living a normal life as an adult. Readers will find help for at home, in intimate relationships and on the job. They will discover the reasons for the way they think, believe and feel about themselves; ACoAs often feel isolated, have difficulty in relationships, in the workplace and in feeling good about themselves.Readers who are familiar with Woititz's work will find wisdom once again in this classic collection. Those new to ACoA will gain fresh insight into their behavior patterns and find an avenue for self-love and healing. Noted ACoA expert Dr. Robert Ackerman, author of the best-selling Perfect Daughters and Silent Sons, provides a foreword and explains why Janet Woititz's message will continue to help millions of readers for generations to come.

Mai bun decat parintii tai. Un emotionant ghid de parenting, pentru toti adultii care provin din familii disfunctionale Cand viata iti da lamai… adesea nu te alegi decat cu o zeama acra. Daca ai crescut intr-o familie disfunctionala, vezi bine ca n-ai avut prea multe sanse la fericire. Nu doar ca te-ai simtit mizerabil in copilarie, dar nici tineretea nu ti-a fost prea lina. Intimitatea zbuciumata de care ai avut parte in relatia de cuplu ti-a deschis ochii asupra tiparelor toxice pe care le preluasesi fara voie din familia de origine si le intruchipai fara sa-ti dai seama, desi le detestai cu toata fiinta ta. Disfunctionalitatea e contagioasa, daca ramai suficienta vreme in preajma ei. Acum a sosit timpul sa te gandesti mai clar la cum iti cresti copiii. Si la cum ai vrea, de fapt, sa-i cresti. A vorbi despre durere si suferinta este o dovada autentica de curaj – nu doar al celui care scrie, ci si al celui care citeste. Aceasta carte indrazneste sa povesteasca despre ceea ce multi dintre noi au trait in copilarie si ne ajuta sa ne gasim vocea, pentru a deveni parintii de care copiii au cu adevarat nevoie. Va fi o lectura grea pentru suflet, dar inaltatoare pentru minte. De aceea, este esential sa ne reamintim ca azi suntem adulti puternici, nu victimele de altadata! Cartea e pentru cei care vor sa nu-si mai contamineze copiii cu traumele lor. - Gaspar Gyorgy, psiholog si autorul cartilor Copilul invizibil si Revolutia iubirii O carte excelenta, pe care am citit-o spunandu-mi la fiecare pagina cata nevoie as fi avut de ea cand imi erau copiii mici. Este, probabil, cea mai clara, sintetica si bine scrisa carte ce se adreseaza parintilor care si-au trait copilaria intr-o familie disfunctionala. Adica majoritatii parintilor romani. Este absolut necesara aceasta carte si sper ca va contribui la vindecarea ranilor pe care le avem, dar mai ales la constientizarea celor pe care le putem face copiilor nostri, perpetuand tiparul disfunctionalitatii. Niciodata nu e prea tarziu sa invatam si sa schimbam ceva. Oricat de mari ar fi copiii nostri, ei merita tot efortul. - Petronela Rotar, autoarea cartilor Ajuta-ma sa nu dispar si Orbi De cate ori nu ma intreb si eu: "Oare, ce ma face un parinte bun?!" Iubirea neconditionata, rabdarea, blandetea, disponibilitatea, bunavointa, cunostintele de psihologie?! "Si ce ma incurca, oare?" Da, ne dorim sa fim parinti "cat de cat impecabili", cum bine ar spune prietenul Exarhu. Dar cred ca trebuie, intai de toate, sa nu ne iluzionam ca parintii nostri, cei nu neaparat impecabili, nu sunt si ei pretutindeni cu noi, invizibili, indiferent cat i-am contesta si cat ne-am propune sa fim, in primul rand, altfel decat ei. Nu suntem nicicare in situatia sa ne fi putut alege parintii. Dar ne spunem, cand ajungem maturi, ca putem alege macar ce fel de parinti devenim noi. Vad eforturi mari, admirabile, la cei din generatia mea – sa se chestioneze despre ce e bine, cum e mai indicat, sa caute o reteta a parintelui desavarsit. Si pare ca reteta chiar exista, o gasesti in nenumaratele carti de parenting. Dar e ca toate retetele, cum sunt si cele din cartile de bucate, de pilda: fara cusur, doar ca mai ai nevoie si de maestrul care chiar sa le poata realiza. Cartile de parenting au, din punctul meu de vedere, o nuanta: dau raspunsuri aproape exacte despre ce inseamna binele copilului, dar prea putine indicatii despre cum ar putea, totusi, sa-i reuseasca reteta unei atat de mari varietati de indivizi. Nu esti maestru doar pentru ca stii retetele. Intelegi din ele cum sa gestionezi frustrarile copilului; dar cum ramane cu ale tale, in fix aceeasi situatie?! Intelegi ca trebuie sa iubesti si furia, si tristetea, si nelinistea la copil, dar unde le asezi pe ale tale?! Sper ca aceasta carte va pune lumina si pe mine, parintele. Si… da, nu suntem impecabili ori atinsi de zen si nu cred ca vom dobandi perfectiunea in parenting. Dar cred ca intuim de ce a fi parinti ramane unica noastra sansa la un strop de nemurire, in caz ca nu vom lasa in urma capodopere literare ori artistice. - Amalia Enache, jurnalista, mama Almei In prima clipa, m-am uitat la fiinta aceea incrancenata, cu nedisimulata incantare. Venise, in sfarsit, dupa 20 de ani de asteptare. In prima saptamana acasa, pe masura ce zilele treceau, am tanjit dupa weekend. Si apoi m-a lovit: mi-am dat seama ca weekendul, asa cum il stiam, nu mai exista. Ca viata, asa cum o stiam, nu mai exista. Si ca fiinta asta cu trasaturi ca ale mele e a mea doar temporar, iar rolul meu e sa-i fiu alaturi – cu rabdare, iubire si responsabilitate – pentru totdeauna. Fara experienta, fara manual de utilizare… Ca si cum tocmai ai primit o racheta cu care poti ajunge pe Luna, esti mega-incantata si abia astepti sa aterizezi acolo, dar habar n-ai cum se face. Si te pui pe studiat. Ceea ce urmeaza sa citesti nu e chiar un manual. Si nici pe Luna nu vei ajunge prea curand, dar macar cateva stele verzi si niscaiva revelatii tot vor aparea pe trase...

Do you feel overwhelmed by your job? Are you so stressed on the job that you have headaches or stomachaches and can't sleep at night? Do you spend too much of your time thinking and talking about your job? Do you feel responsible for everything that goes wrong at work? Are you loyal to your boss and co-workers, even when they don't deserve it? Do you work well under pressure but have trouble completing long-term projects? Adult children of alcoholics are among any company's most productive and valuable employees -- dedicated, conscientious, capable and eager to please. But if you are an Adult Child and have answered "yes" to most of the questions above, you may be suffering from workaholism, burn-out or other work-related problems. This book shows you what to look for and how to make your worklife more satisfying and effective.

How do you live with an alcoholic? Dr. Woititz in her first, break through book addresses the spouses of alcoholics who feel overwhelmed and desperate in their marriages. Her focus is to show that the boundaries of isolationism and depression that living with an alcoholic brings does not necessarily mean one cannot eventually find piece of mind. Whether or not the alcoholic continues drinking. Marriage on the Rocks can show you the coping skills you deserve to have when Alcoholism impacts your life.

In Healthy Parenting , Janet Woititz, a leading therapist, contrasts what happens in a healthy family with what happens in an unhealthy family.As both therapist and parent, Janet Woititz can give you the guidance you missed in your childhood and help you avoid the mistakes your parents made. It's all in Healthy Parenting .

A sensitive guide provides a path toward personal change for the better by learning to identify and put to rest the anxieties that stem from destructive sexual experiences

Alcoholism is a disease that affects not just the alcoholic, but all those around him. Many grow up believing stunted relationships are normal, so incorporate into their subsequent family behavior that virtually assures distrust, need to control and, of course, denial. Adult children of alcoholics thus frequently pass on to their children the legacy of their childhood. Until recently there seemed little hope the cycle could be broken.Enter Janet Woititz, a pioneer in this area. First, she understands the problem and names it. Second, she points out other causes of deviant parental behavior that damage as effectively as alcoholism. And third, she illuminates symptoms in such a way that we can identify them in ourselves and work to solve the problem.

Companion workbook for Lifeskills for Adult Children by Janet Geringer Woititz and Alan Garner.

You know the people described in "Home Away From Home." They're the classic overachievers, and every work place has them: "They are dedicated, conscientious, capable, loyal and will do everything in their power to please." They are valuable and productive employees, and their success is predictable; it's also a mixed blessing.These people are children of alcoholics, and what's really driving them is not just the healthy instinct to succeed but a deep-seated conviction that no matter how well they do their jobs, it won't be good enough to earn the approval and respect they so desperately need.

Danish-language translation of Janet Geringer Woititz' "Struggle for Intimacy".

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Vivre ensemble est une question complexe, la clé vers le bonheur de chaque homme et de chaque femme. Cela vaut pour chacun de nous, tout au long de notre vie. Être intime, c'est être proche, être vulnérable, des qualités qui sont très différentes des techniques de survie que nous avons apprises.Dans Vivre ensemble, vous apprendrez :- à identifier les mythes familiaux qui vous font vous questionner sur la possibilité même de vivre une relation amoureuse saine et intime;- à connaître les questions à poser pour découvrir si vous et votre partenaire avez une longue vie de couple devant vous;- à être conscient des malentendus qui peuvent briser votre relation;- à exprimer vos sentiments et vos peurs afin d'éviter les malentendus;- à découvrir ce qu'il faut faire quand rien ne va dans votre relation;- à créer des relations harmonieuses.Acquérir des habiletés en matière de relations amoureuses et d'intimité peut être difficile, mais avec de la compréhension et des efforts, vous pouvez les apprendre. Ce livre, d'une grande clarté, est une bonne façon de commencer.

Editie revizuita si extinsa, pentru toti adultii care provin din familii disfunctionale Zbuciumul dintr-o relatie de cuplu este un subiect complicat, insa reprezinta cheia spre fericire. E valabil pentru noi toti si poate dura toata viata. Sa fii intim cu cineva inseamna sa fii increzator si vulnerabil (trasaturi foarte diferite de abilitatile de supravietuire invatate in copilarie de unii dintre noi). Asadar, e momentul sa clarifici Ce mituri iti bantuie prin minte? Care comportamente iti saboteaza relatia? Ai sanse reale de a-ti cladi un viitor benefic alaturi de actualul partener? Si ce poti face, pentru a avea o relatie de cuplu sanatoasa? Cartea de fata e un bun punct de plecare, daca vrei sa gasesti raspunsul la asemenea intrebari. Tatal meu era alcoolic. Iar eu am avut o copilarie zbuciumata. Rusinea si vinovatia de demult, imbatate pe atunci de frica si anxietate, sunt trairi pe care nu am cum sa le uit vreodata. Si chiar daca nu am devenit la randul meu alcoolic, toata viata m-am aflat in cautarea a ceva «din afara mea», pentru a stinge nevoia mistuitoare de alinare sufleteasca si de validare emotionala. Chiar si acum, imi este uneori greu sa potolesc focul ingrijorarilor si indoielilor care ma bantuie. Cred ca nu exista adult in Romania zilelor noastre care - sub o forma sau alta - sa nu fi fost afectat, la un moment dat in viata, de consumul de alcool. Indiferent ca ne referim la un partener, un parinte sau la propria dependenta (ori la cum au fost influentati partenerii de viata, prietenii sau colegii nostri de consumul de alcool al cuiva drag). Alcoolul este bine infiltrat in diferitele straturi ale culturii, in sistemul relational si in psihologia noastra.